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#MeToo (https://twitter.com/hashtag/MeToo?src%3dhashtag_click)       .    2017      ,        . . .




3


Terrence Real. The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (New York: Ballantine Books, 2008). P. 8.




4


Eli J. Finkel. The All or Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work (New York: Dutton, 2017), 83.




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J.Yamada, M. Kito, and M. Yuki. Passion, Relational Mobility, and Proof of Commitment: A Comparative Socio-Ecological Analysis of an Adaptive Emotion in a Sexual Market. Evolutionary Psychology (October December 2017): 18, https://doi.org/10.1177/1474704917746056 (https://doi.org/10.1177/1474704917746056).




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Finkel, The All or Nothing Marriage, 24.




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L. Campbell and S. Moroz. Humour Use Between Spouses and Positive and Negative Interpersonal Behaviours During Conflict. Europes Journal of Psychology 10, no. 3 (2014): 532542, https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.v10i3.763 (https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.v10i3.763).




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L. Campbell and S. Moroz. Humour Use Between Spouses and Positive and Negative Interpersonal Behaviours During Conflict. Europes Journal of Psychology 10, no. 3 (2014): 532542, https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.v10i3.763 (https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.v10i3.763).




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Elizabeth A. Robinson and M. Gail Price. Pleasurable Behavior in Marital Interaction: An Observational Study. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 48, no. 1 (1980): 117118, https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.48.1.117 (https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.48.1.117).


