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1


Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and David Popenoe, Who Wants to Marry a Soul Mate? The State of Our Unions (Piscataway, NJ: National Marriage Project, Rutgers, 2001).




2


Massachusetts General Hospital, Social Connection Is the Strongest Protective Factor for Depression, Science Daily, August 14, 2020, sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/08/200814131007.htm (http://sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/08/200814131007.htm).




3


G.E. Vaillant and K. Mukamal, Successful Aging, American Journal of Psychiatry 158, 6 (June 2001): 839847, doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.158.6.839 (http://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.158.6.839); George E. Vaillant, Adaptation to Life (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1995); George E. Vaillant, Aging Well (NewYork: Little, Brown, 2002).




4


R. D. Conger, M. Cui, C. M. Bryant, and G. H. Elder, Competence in Early Adult Romantic Relationships: A Developmental Perspective on Family Influences, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 79, no. 2 (August 2000): 224237, doi.org/10.1037//00223514.79.2.224 (http://doi.org/10.1037//0022-3514.79.2.224); John M. Gottman, What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum, 1994); R. W. Simon and K. Marcussen, Marital Transitions, Marital Beliefs, and Mental Health, Journal of Health and Social Behavior 40, 2 (June 1999): 111125.




5


John Bowlby, Loss: Sadness and Depression, vol. 3of Attachment and Loss (NewYork: Basic Books, 1980).




6


J. T. Cacioppo and S. Cacioppo, Social Relationships and Health: The Toxic Effects of Perceived Social Isolation, Social and Personality Psychology Compass 8, 2 (February 2014): 5872, doi.org/10.1111/spc3.12087 (http://doi.org/10.1111/spc3.12087).




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D. C. Jack, Silencing the Self: Inner Dialogues and Outer Realities, in The Interactional Nature of Depression: Advances in Interpersonal Approaches, ed. T. Joiner and J. C. Coyne (Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 1999), 225.




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9


Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (NewYork: Little, Brown Spark, 2008).




10


R. J. Navarra and J. M. Gottman, Sound Relationship House in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, in Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy, ed. J. Lebow, A.Chambers, and D. Breunlin (NewYork: Springer, 2018), doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-15877-8_208-1 (http://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-15877-8_208-1).




11


C. E. Rusbult and P. A. M. van Lange, Interdependence, Interaction, and Relationships, Annual Review of Psychology 54 (February 2003): 351375, doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.54.101601.145059 (http://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.54.101601.145059).


