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1


      .     : Kushner H. How Good Do We Have toBe? ANew Understanding ofGuilt andForgiveness. NewYork: Little, Brown, 1997. P.108.




2


Smedes L. TheArt ofForgiving: When You Need toForgive andDont Know How. NewYork: Ballantine, 1996.




3


Beck A. Prisoners ofHate: TheCognitive Basis ofAnger, Hostility andViolence. NewYork: Perennial, 1999.




4


Schnur S. Beyond forgiveness: Women, can we emancipate ourselves from amodel meant formen? // Lilith. 2001. 26 (3). . 1619,45.




5


Enright R. andthe Human Development Study Group. Counseling within theforgiveness triad: Onforgiving, receiving forgiveness andselfforgiveness // Counseling andValues. 1996, January. 40. P.107126.




6


Smedes L. TheArt ofForgiving: When You Need toForgive andDont Know How. NewYork: Ballantine, 1996.




7


Patton J. Forgiveness inpastoral care andcounseling. .:McCullough M., Pargament K. andThoresen C. (Eds.) Forgiveness: Theory, Research andPractice. NewYork: Guilford, 2000. P.156175, 281295.




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. .  ,     . (http://litres.ru/pages/biblio_book/?art=66472636) .: , 2021.




9


Herman J. Trauma andRecovery: TheAftermath ofViolence from Domestic Abuse toPolitical Terror. NewYork: Basic Books, 1997.




10


Emmons R. Personality andforgiveness. .:McCullough M., Pargament K. andThoresen C. (Eds.) Forgiveness: Theory, Research andPractice. NewYork: Guilford, 2000. P.156175. .: Roberts R. Forgivingness // American Philosophical Quarterly. 1995. 32. P.289306.




11


. .: Paris B. (Ed.) TheUnknown Karen Horney: Essays onGender, Culture andPsychoanalysis. New Haven: Yale University Press, 2000. P.266.




12


Gilligan C. andBrown L. Meeting atthe Crossroads: Womens Psychology andGirls Development. Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 1992.




13


Wetzler S. Living with thePassive-Aggressive Man. NewYork: Fireside, 1992.




14


Wetzler S. Living with thePassive-Aggressive Man. NewYork: Fireside, 1992.




15


Young J., Klosko J. andWeishaar M. Schema Therapy: APractitioners Guide. NewYork: Guilford, 2003.




16


Karen R. TheForgiving Self: TheRoad from Resentment toConnection. NewYork: Doubleday, 2001.




17


Woodman T. Therole offorgiveness inmarriage andmarital adjustment // Dissertation Abstracts International. 1992. 53 (4B), 2079. (University Microfilms No. DA9225999.). .: Gordon K., Baucom D. andSnyder D. TheUse ofForgiveness inMarital Therapy. 2000. P.212.




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Katz J., Street A. andArias I. Forgive andforget: Womens responses todating violence. Poster presented atthe Annual Conference ofthe Association forthe Advancement ofBehavior Therapy, Washington, D. 1995, November. .: Gordon K., Baucom D. andSnyder D. TheUse ofForgiveness inMarital Therapy. 2000. P.224.




20


Thoresen C., Harris A. andLuskin F. Forgiveness andHealth: AnUnanswered Question. .:McCullough M., Pargament K. andThoresen C. (Eds.) Forgiveness: Theory, Research, andPractice. NewYork: Guilford, 2000. P.254280.




21


Temochok L. andDreher H. TheType C Connection: TheBehavioral Links toCancer andYour Health. NewYork: Random House, 1992.




22


Temochok L. andDreher H. TheType C Connection: TheBehavioral Links toCancer andYour Health. NewYork: Random House, 1992.


